Expectations
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id rather just expect nothing. i wish. argh!!! 
 
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 Sep 12 2007, 06:37 AM
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Details, woman.
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what happend?
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This topic is so going to go into buddhism (even if I have to drag it there)
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haha i give my full permission!
but back on to this topic, i didn't write it with something in mind. it's really about the little expectations that make you [me] feel like crap. like when i clear the dishwasher and my mum doesn't even acknowledges it, or when i go out of my way to help someone and they never bother helping back. that kind of stuff.
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Well, time to come true on my promise; one of the Four Noble Truths of buddhism is "Suffering is caused by desire", and much of buddhism's teachings are about how to eliminate suffering by eliminating desires (and thus expectations). Now while I personally am not buddhist I do agree mostly with this; if you have low expectations (or none at all) you can't be disappointed.
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QUOTE (Fedora.Pirate @ Sep 12 2007, 11:35 PM)  if you have low expectations (or none at all) you can't be disappointed. Instead, you have a pretty boring life with no highs or lows. Hooray for a mediocre existence filled with Saturday nights at home watching Celebrity Jeopardy!
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What's to say you'll have no highs? Last year for year 12 I made sure to convince myself that I'd get a 65 even though all signs said I'd get an 85 perhaps more; when I got my 89 I was absolutely wrapped. As long as you prepare yourself (at least mentally) for the worst then in theory you should be ready for anything.
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QUOTE (Fedora.Pirate @ Sep 13 2007, 03:03 AM) What's to say you'll have no highs? Last year for year 12 I made sure to convince myself that I'd get a 65 even though all signs said I'd get an 85 perhaps more; when I got my 89 I was absolutely wrapped. As long as you prepare yourself (at least mentally) for the worst then in theory you should be ready for anything. in theory, if you had gotten below 65 you would have been not wrapped?
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True, but there was only so low I could convince myself. Expecting that I was just going to fail was just not possible as I knew it was a lie.
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well then you did have expectations and were not expecting the worst
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I originally said "if you have low expectations (or none at all) you can't be disappointed." And in my opinion those expectations were low.
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yeah i convinced myself i was gonna bomb the chem exam and i did so i wasn't disappointed. doesn't quite have a happy ending but everyone tells you that "everything will be ok" so its easy to get high expectations. I hate it how people try to cheer you up that way. like they know i'll be fine. grrrr
anyway, great expectation + epic failure = great disappointment
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I disagree. If you shoot for the stars and you fail, you may still hit the sky... but if you only reach for the skies and you fail, then all you can do is come back down to earth.
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I never said anything about where you aim, only what you expect to come of it.
Aim for the best, expect the worst.
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