[5tephanie]

HAY GUYS
I'm new here and this is my first post so please bear with me. There might be some cursingf involved. Also I'm not paying much attention to my spelling and grammar.
I'm a responible teen (at least I like to think so) I try to do my best at what I do. I keep my room clean all the time and I do good in school. OI'm very social and I like to go out any change i get Like any other normal teen i have my flwas (lazy, etcetcdetfg)

EVER SINCE I WAS A GODAMN CHILD I've always had the hardest time convincing my dAMN [PARENTS to let me go sleepover at other people's houses. In 6th grade (my awkward years, I was a huge dork) I was rarely invited to go out anywhere(loser D:). When a friend's birthday rolled by, the usual way to celebrate it was with a damn sleeopver party. As usual, I begged my parents to let me go with no avail. I only went to one sleeopver party and ewhen I went my dad told me "This is gonna be the first and last sleeopver you go to" HOEEEE.

Why the fuck are they vso overprotective? I have friends whose parents do care about them and let them go out to places. Yesyes, not all parents are the same and shit but I honestly don't understand why they're so overprotective about me. I know its not a trust thing, I'm a good kid. I am whre I say I am and I try to bew as hnoest as I vcan. Trust is a veryu valuable thing.

SO TODAY my friend aslked me if i could sleeopver at her house. I asked my parents AND they said no. Why? They dsont want anything ot happen to me. WHAT THE FUCK. If they dont want anything bad to happen to me, then nothing wil lever happen to me. Honestly sometimes I wish I could go whore myself around so their worrying could be worth something. There's danger everywhere! A hundred things could go wrong if I go to the grocery store. There's a small chance to prevent it. I am a GOOD kid, and I don't say that so you readers could be biased. Idk how the hell to prove that to my parents. The way they're keeping me shut in makes me want to rebel and be bad.. they cant keep me in forever. I NEED SOME ROOM TO BREATHEE!!!! FUCKINGSHITTT

k so guys, I ask you this: Make me feel good about being a loser and staying home friday night. What's a time where you wished you stayed home instead of sleeping over at a friends house?
and sorry it was so long,

[kimbanator]

I feel sorry for you and I had similar problems as a kid and a teenager. Maybe there is a way you can comprimise? Maybe ask them if one of your friends could stay the night at your house? Have you asked them why they don't like you staying at someone else's house?

I rarely went to parties or out on weekends. I was a dork too. or a nerd.. or both... It frustrated me every now and then but it doesn't actually bother me anymore because there have been parties where I actually regretted going because it was really boring, felt uncomfortable or felt ignored.

Take things one step at a time.

A couple of years ago I went to a party that ended up with people more than making out in clear view in the backyard. I really did not enjoy seeing it. Besides watching people have reversals.

I went to a sleep over many many years before that in which I was ignored at least half the time. It was uncomfortable and no one was kind enough to stop screaming when I wanted to go to sleep.

Does that make you feel better?

Everything has their good and bad points.

Like I now have gone to some awesome parties, and I like to go on camps and stuff.

[Fridgemagnet]

I've had similar problems of my parents not trusting me when I was a bit younger as well, and while they were fine with sleepovers, they worried about leaving me at home on my own. They knew I wasn't going to throw a party, they admitted that and they were fine with my brother when he did. They seemed more worried that I'd spend too long on the computer, instead of doing homework which I couldn't get done on holidays with them anyway. The saddest part is (I've learned this now) when they go away, I usually take more care of myself and of the house than when they're home.

So I think mutual trust is one of the more important parts of of parent-child relationship, because if parents don't trust us we can't learn our limits, and if we don't feel we can trust our parent's judgements then we won't respect their decisions. It's impossible to fully develop your character while your parents keep you on a leash, and it's a lose-lose situation because if you rebel against it you'll most likely lose their respect and support, which is important particularly through schooling years.

And seriously? If something goes horribly wrong, you can just call them.

[Sam]

When I was 15ish my dad was really strict on who's houses I stayed at. I eventually brought my friends to my house so much he would get to know them and the parents picking them up that I started staying at their houses. But he always wanted to talk to the parents (pretty embarrassing when you're 15) later on he started to not care who's houses I went to. I think it's just a built trust thing.

Hope that helps!

[5tephanie]

Thanks for the replies. I went out yesterday, and made my mom meet my friend's parents. I think that's gonna help a bit. I'll make sure to try the tips:)