While it is upsetting to have all these people stareing at me it is still so interesting on how judgmental the public is.
Yeah, I agree, that is both interesting and upsetting.
Hiiiiiiiiighly presumptuous straight-forward pitch-fork yielding and religious psycho babble from our resident conservative kiki aside, has everyone completely forgotten the valuable life lessons from a little ray of happiness called Gilmore Girls!?
First off, I wanna say that it's not something I'd be encouraging girls to do, and absolutely I would use protection at all times - but they're called unplanned pregnancies for a reason. It's just not as simple as "use protection or don't do it." You could wait until you're 30 before you have sex, and even with using a condom you could still run the slight chance of becoming pregnant that very first time. A lot of the time I'm sure the pregnancy is beyond their control. Hell, you could even fall pregnant to a rapist.
I wouldn't expect many girls want it to happen to them at such a young age - in fact, I just asked a few of my female friends whether they'd want to have a kid at this age, and they said no. But as adamant as you are in not wanting it to happen to you, I think that once it unexpectedly does, it's a whole different situation.
I'm not saying there aren't a lot of irresponsible people in the world who might be in way over their heads, but I think it's unfair to just focus on that side. And seriously, when it concerns any life-changing decision, it's okay to be a little in over your head. It's human... it's what you'd expect, no? Hell, some people feel way in over their head at a new job, or even in a new relationship. Imagine how you'd feel being in school and raising a child. It's a lot to take on, but I believe that if you love your child, everything else will fall into place and you'll find a way to make things work.
You just don't know a pregnant teen's situation, and I'm sure it's one of the hardest decisions a girl would ever have to make. All I'm saying is just don't be so quick to judge.
And also, about kiki's comment that teenagers couldn't focus on the development of a child while they're still developing themselves... I think that's just text-book hoo-ha. (Yes, I just said hoo-ha.
I know, I know.) But yeah, I think we spend most of our lives developing who we are. It's human progress, for the most part it doesn't stop. Life is constantly changing, and it's highly possible to adapt to that change. To finally tie in Gilmore Girls, the bond between Lorelai and Rory (the mom and daughter for those with poor taste in TV) is an equal, loving relationship - where not only does Rory learn from Lorelai, but the mother learns from the daughter as well. Lorelai got pregnant at 16, I think it was. In a sense, they grow up together.
If you think mother/daughter relationships just won't work out at such a young age, take a look at parents who have kids when they're much older. My mom grew up with much older parents, and because of that age gap, she wasn't able to be as open with them and talk about what was going on in her life without them judging her in a negative light. My mom had me when she was young, and I think that's one of the main reasons we get along so well. Just like Lorelai and Rory from Gilmore Girls, we're both able to understand each other and we even have fun together. At the same time, she's taught me everything I know, and I can say that I learned all my morals directly from her. I'm 17 and I don't drink, I've never smoked, and I get good grades when I can actually get off ISFAT long enough to study.
Like our good friend Rory in Gilmore Girls, I like to think I've turned out okay!
If you've noticed, I've been bringing up my points in relation to "a lot of people", "the majority", "some people" and even with my own personal experiences. I've done this because I don't want to make a generalization on all pregnant teens, I think that would be foolish. I'm just trying to say that there are girls out there that can and do make it work, and I applaud them. I applaud them not for getting pregnant, but for putting on a brave face and dealing with each day as it comes. I think it would take a lot of strength to raise a child at a young age in today's society.
I'm fully aware that it's not going to be the best option to keep a child for everyone, but for those that do... I know some of you may think it's wrong, but you can't change it. If you really care so much and don't think they can do it, come down off your high horse and offer them your support. Based on what kiki said, I'm sure they could use any slight amount of help you give!
I'm sure there are a million reasons to not to keep a baby, but from my view you only need one to keep it, and that's love.
It's really hard to pick a side on this issue and understand it completely until you yourself have found out you're pregnant - which last time I checked is gonna prove a difficult task for me!
I don't consider my views the right one, it's just where I stand. There are many different views and perspectives, each carrying their own weight and valid points. I know this post will probably be picked apart and counter-argued to death, but I just wanted to offer a positive perspective to this subject. I'll let kiki and the Church elders take it from here!